In the world of social graces and proper conduct, the name “Miss Manners” is iconic. For decades, Judith Martin has been the final word on etiquette.
But in recent years, a new voice has joined the conversation, one that brings a surprising and refreshing perspective to the world of manners. That voice belongs to Jacobina Martin, Judith Martin’s daughter, a woman who is as comfortable on a comedy stage as she is in the pages of an etiquette column.
A Surprising Duality
Jacobina Martin embodies a fascinating paradox. She is the co-writer of the famed “Miss Manners” column, a bastion of traditional decorum.
Yet, she is also a seasoned improvisational comedian, a veteran of Chicago’s legendary Second City, a place where rules are made to be broken for the sake of a good laugh. This duality is not a contradiction but a unique strength, allowing her to navigate the complexities of modern social life with both grace and a sense of humor.
The Early Years: A Foundation in Arts and Academia
Born into a world of intellectual and cultural richness, Jacobina Martin was raised in Washington, D.C., and various foreign capitals. Her mother, Judith Martin, is the celebrated “Miss Manners,” and her father, Robert Martin, is a scientist.
This upbringing provided her with a unique global perspective and a deep appreciation for the arts.
Her academic journey led her to Harvard College, where she honed her intellectual abilities. Following her undergraduate studies, she pursued her passion for the performing arts, earning a master’s degree from The Actors’ Studio at The New School in New York.
This combination of a rigorous academic background and professional artistic training laid the groundwork for her multifaceted career.
A Career in Comedy: The Second City and “Jane”
Jacobina Martin’s career in comedy is as impressive as her lineage in etiquette. She is a respected instructor of improv and sketch comedy at the Second City Training Center in Chicago, a world-renowned institution that has produced some of the greatest names in comedy.
Her work at Second City demonstrates her mastery of comedic timing, storytelling, and the art of improvisation.
In addition to her teaching, she is a founding member of “Jane,” a groundbreaking all-female improv group in Chicago. This pioneering work highlights her commitment to pushing creative boundaries and empowering women in the comedy world.
Her theatrical career began at the young age of 12, showcasing a lifelong dedication to the stage.
Joining the Family Business: A Modern Voice for Miss Manners
In 2013, Jacobina Martin officially joined her mother and brother, Nicholas Ivor Martin, as a co-writer for the “Miss Manners” column. Her inclusion brought a fresh, modern perspective to the column, helping it to address the nuances of 21st-century etiquette dilemmas.
She tackles two columns a week, bringing her unique voice and generational wisdom to a wide readership.
Her contributions have been instrumental in keeping the “Miss Manners” column relevant and engaging for a new generation of readers. She helps to navigate the complexities of social media, modern dating, and the ever-evolving workplace, all with the signature wit and wisdom that has defined the column for decades.
Bridging Two Worlds: Etiquette Meets Improv
One might think that the worlds of etiquette and improvisational comedy are at odds, but Jacobina Martin sees them as complementary. She believes that both disciplines require a keen understanding of human interaction, a sense of timing, and the ability to adapt to unexpected situations.
Her background in improv gives her a unique ability to analyze social situations with a sharp, comedic eye.
This unique perspective is evident in her writing. She approaches etiquette not as a rigid set of rules, but as a way to navigate social interactions with kindness, respect, and a touch of humor.
She understands that sometimes, the most polite thing you can do is to have a good laugh.
Author and Collaborator: Beyond the Column
In addition to her work on the “Miss Manners” column, Jacobina Martin is also a published author. She co-authored “Miss Manners’ Guide to a Surprisingly Dignified Wedding” with her mother, a book that offers a refreshing and practical approach to wedding planning.
The book rebels against the trend of extravagant, “monster” weddings, advocating for ceremonies that are both charming and affordable.
Her writing reflects her practical and down-to-earth approach to etiquette. She is not afraid to challenge outdated conventions and offer sensible advice for modern life.
Her work is a testament to her ability to blend tradition with a contemporary sensibility.
Personal Life: A Chicagoan with Deep Roots
Jacobina Martin has made Chicago her home, where she lives with her husband, Ronald Kroll, a special education teacher, and their daughter, Greta. Her life in Chicago allows her to stay connected to the vibrant comedy scene while contributing to the family legacy of “Miss Manners.”
Her personal life reflects her grounded and unpretentious nature. Despite her famous lineage, she remains approachable and relatable, a quality that endears her to readers and students alike.
The Future of Manners
As a co-writer of the “Miss Manners” column, Jacobina Martin is helping to shape the future of etiquette. She is proving that manners are not about stuffy rules and outdated traditions, but about navigating the complexities of modern life with grace, humor, and a deep respect for others.
Her unique voice and perspective ensure that the wisdom of “Miss Manners” will continue to be relevant for generations to come.
